Every couple has spats, I am aware of this. I am also aware of how a person's tone of voice can cause a trigger in me. I have a few major triggers, which thanks to the meds, I have been able to find out what they are and somewhat gain control over them. The worst thing you can possibly say to me EVER is "you're just telling yourself that, IT'S ALL IN YOUR HEAD" . I already live a majority of the time in my head so I know what goes on in there way better than anyone else and trust me I know what's real and what's not. Hubs said this very line to me last night because I got grumpy about the way he was talking to me, he does this passive agressive thing, where he'll ask a question in this condescending voice and without actually saying "yes, you did this wrong" he'll make a point of it to question me and the way it comes out is just like an attack. I have tried over and over to ask him to please not talk to me that way, to please be mindful of how exactly you word things or say things in a nicer tone, and he says "IT'S ALL IN YOUR HEAD- I DON'T TALK LIKE THAT or I DIDN'T SAY IT THAT WAY", when you say a phrase like that it causes this surge of anger and waves of sadness, I already feel crazy enough as it is and now you're treating me like I am.
I am at a loss today, I just feel F.I.N.E (Fucked up, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional).